September 11th, 2002

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GIVE LITTLE, GIVE SELDOM, AND ABOVE ALL, GIVE GRUDGINGLY.

The following is a reprint from The Madison Institute Newsletter, Fall, 1894

INSTRUCTION AND ADVICE FOR THE YOUNG BRIDE

On the Conduct and Procedure of the Intimate and Personal Relationships of the Marriage State for the Greater Spiritual Sanctity of this Blessed Sacrament and the Glory of God
by
Ruth Smythers, beloved wife of The Reverend L.D. Smythers, Pastor of the Arcadian Methodist Church of the Eastern Regional Conference

Published in the year of our Lord 1894
Spiritual Guidance Press - New York City


To the sensitive young woman who has had the benefits of proper upbringing, the wedding day is, ironically, both the happiest and most terrifying day of her life. On the positive side, there is the wedding itself, in which the bride is the central attraction in a beautiful and inspiring ceremony, symbolizing her triumph in securing a male to provide for all her needs for the rest of her life. On the negative side, there is the wedding night, during which the bride must pay the piper, so to speak, by facing for the first time the terrible experience of sex.

At this point, dear reader, let me concede one shocking truth. Some young women actually anticipate the wedding night ordeal with curiosity and pleasure! Beware such an attitude! A selfish and sensual husband can easily take advantage of such a bride. One cardinal rule of marriage should never be forgotten:

GIVE LITTLE, GIVE SELDOM, AND ABOVE ALL, GIVE GRUDGINGLY.
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One heartening factor for which the wife can be grateful is the fact that the husband's home, school, church, and social environment have been working together all through his life to instill in him a deep sense of guilt in regards to his sexual feelings, so that he comes to the marriage couch apologetically and filled with shame, already half cowed and subdued. The wise wife seizes upon this advantage and relentlessly pursues her goal first to limit, later to annihilate, completely her husband's desire for sexual expression.

What's scary/sad is that this does appear to be real. My bad. Unconfirmed but unlikely, according to Snopes. Still funny, though!
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How do you measure a year in the life?

I wore blue jeans to work today, with a white short-sleeved sweater and a red purse (and red underwear, if you really must know). It was completely unintentional and I was surprised by the realization.

I didn't watch TV today, but there's no surprise there. It also wasn't intentional; I can go weeks without that (and usually do).

I posted the lyrics to this song almost two years ago, on December 31, 2000. I found them appropriate again today.

Seasons of Love

Five hundred twenty-five thousand six hundred minutes
Five hundred twenty-five thousand moments so dear
Five hundred twenty-five thousand six hundred minutes
How do you measure - measure a year?

In daylights? - in sunsets?
In midnights? - in cups of coffee?
In inches? - in miles?
In laughter? - in strife?

In - five hundred twenty-five thousand six hundred minutes
how do you measure
a year in the life?

How about love?
How about love?
How about love?
Measure in love

Seasons of Love
Seasons of Love

Five hundred twenty-five thousand six hundred minutes
Five hundred twenty-five thousand journeys to plan
Five hundred twenty-five thousand six hundred minutes
How do you measure the life of a woman or a man?

In truths that she learned, or in times that she cried?
In bridges she burned, or the way that she died?

It's time now - to sing out
though the story never ends...
Let's celebrate...
Remember a year in the life of friends...

Remember the love
Remember the love
Remember the love
Measure in love

Measure - measure your life in love

Seasons of love....
Seasons of love

--Jonathan Larson, from Rent


It is my hope that, amid the mourning and remembrance, this day is remembered not as a day of fear and hate and warmongering under the guise of patriotism*, but as a day of love.

Peace be to you, and peace be to your house, and peace be to all that you have.

* And certainly not as a day of idiotic Patriot Day half-price sales.
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